October 5, 2007
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Finding a good man…..
Hmmmmm…let me rephrase that! Hoping a good man finds you….
I need to really rethink things sometimes since I grew up in the
“liberated” 60’s and 70’s….I am not a feminist…at all…no way…no how…. but those
ingrained viewpoints from my past creep back in there sometimes.
Now getting back to this good man stuff. Well…my husband and I celebrated 21 years
together this past week and let me tell you…I have a good man. He is not perfect and neither am I. Wouldn’t that be a hard thing to deal with
if either of us were???He tried to take off on October first which is our day,
but someone else got to it first at work.
So he took off today(Friday) and tomorrow(Saturday).
We were going to go away over night somewhere…ocean like I had hoped…but
unfortunately finances did not allow it.
But we had a really good day today just palling around. We went out for lunch and then did some
impromptu stops to look at antiques and stuff.
We even stopped at a friend’s yard sale. I am so glad we did as she had a framed poem that I have been
looking for for a long time. It cracked
me up so much when I saw it years ago at an antique shop. Back then, my family went back to buy it for me for my
birthday but it was gone.I am not sure if the poem is meant to be serious but it
really had me right up until the end and then after I caught my breath I just
lost it. I am not sure if it was the
picture attached (Whistler’s Mother) or my own childhood…so I mean no offense and I have no idea
who wrote this poem/prose. This version
that I bought at the yard sale today is the poem in an 18X15 inch frame and the print is the colors used in the
20’s with a pink rose up by the title…pretty fancy…and really will be pretty
reframed. I got it for $1.00.Anyway here is the poem with Whistler’s Mother just as I
saw it so many years ago.Mother
It is a
wonderful thing,A
mother;other
folks can love you,but only
your mother understands.
She works
for you,looks after
you, loves you,forgives
you anything you may do,understands
you,and then
the only thing sad sheever
does to youis to
die and leave you.
So what do you think?
My mother died when I was 15…it was a tough time. So maybe this is more poignant to me because
of that. I don’t mean to be morbid or
unfeeling or anything like that…it’s just that the whole last line caught me
off guard and made me laugh. I tried to research
the author to no avail and both times I have seen it printed there has been no author stated.So let’s get back to my good man. (There is always a bunny trial isn’t there?)
D. has a servant’s heart and he has always been such a good
sport about doing things for me without ever complaining. That makes it a little tough on me because I
have to be so careful not to take advantage of him. He draws the line sometimes and that keeps me in check.He has his own business with his two brothers and works
long hours every day but Sunday. He’s
been pretty adamant about staying closed on Sunday. So far so good.He is a hard worker…never lazy. Over the years he has attempted to make various things for the
kids or me. He has built us sandboxes
and doghouses, shelves and sheds and fences. He
sells paint at his store…. thank goodness because he knows that if I pick a
color and he paints the room, I will end up not liking that first color. Oh I try so hard not to do that to him…but
it has become a big joke around here now.
I must admit, much to his skepticism, that with this last painting
project I loved the first color. Twice
in a row this has happened. I am really
trying to be sure the first time.Oh I just love him!
And fortunately he loves me too!
He has learned to expect the unexpected from me. There is never a dull moment with me.
We met at a local theatre. He was the bass player in the band of a musical and I was an
onstage props person in that show.
We actually got together permanently a few shows
later. Our journey has been pretty
tough at times, financial, health, opposition to our faith and home schooling
and other trying obstacles. But we persevered and keep working on our
relationship and growing and learning together. The Lord has been so good to us in that way…ever faithful.One of my favorite authors is Edna Ferber and in one of
her books entitled “So Big” she has a few lines that really struck me and hit
home with me. This is a great book by
the way, especially for young men…. listen to your mommas and do not take the
easy way out. This selection from the book means a lot
to me because my husband toughed it out.
He continues to. We’ve had our
hard times and I am sure there will still be more but he stuck with what he
believed and keeps on keeping on. He
stayed firm in his faith and he has had to make some pretty tough decisions
even lately and I could not be prouder of his integrity.“…Someday I’ll probably marry a horny-handed son of toil,
and if I do it’ll be the horny hands that will win me. There is something about a man who has
fought for it-I don’t know what it is-a look in his eye-the feel of his hand. He needn’t have been successful-though but
he probably would be. I don’t
know. I’m not very good at this
analysis stuff. I only know he-well, you haven’t a mark on you. Not a mark.
You quit being an architect, or whatever it was, because architecture
was an uphill disheartening job at the time. I don’t say you should have kept
on. For all I know you were a bum
architect. But if you had kept on-if you had loved it enough to keep
on-fighting, and struggling, and sticking it out-why, that fight would show in your
face today-in your eyes and your jaw and your hands and in your way of standing
and walking and sitting and talking.
Listen. I am not criticizing you. But you’re all smooth. I like ‘em
bumpy.”You know what I am saying here? The book is really good and would certainly help with understanding
the context here but I think you can get the gist of what I am trying to
convey. I am so glad I got me a real
man. For a long time I tried to get him
to understand girly things…and got so frustrated because he was not tapping
into his right side of the brain.
But then I reread Genesis
and you know what….. men and women are way different. Duh!!! New
revelation!!! And they are supposed to
be. You know what??? Praise God they are! Where logic and practicality are needed my D
is there and where I can be snookered by some things…he is there again. I have found out that he is a whole lot wiser in many
many matters. Twice this week I told
him about some situations I fell for and he pointed out how both of them were
possible scams. Us women really do
need a protector. Thankfully my
protector asks my opinion on things and even takes my advice many times. He is certainly not a dictator. Oh this reminds me of a really good book I
am just finishing. Wow!!! Was this ever an eye opener and oh so
biblical. The title and author is
“Oops, I Forgot my Wife” by Doyle Roth.
I will attach it up top on this post.
This book really helped me to see areas of self-centeredness in my life….
and how the key to a good marriage is selflessness. There is no room for self-centeredness…. but it sure thinks there
is room for it!I am thinking this book would be an excellent read prior
to marriage as well. The sooner a couple
realizes this the happier their marriage relationship will be.Well that’s about it for now. Saturday, if all goes as planned, our bedroom will be painted or
at least mostly painted. It’s been a
long time since it has been done and long over do. Hopefully after the end of tomorrow I can look back and say this
post still applies to us. You know how
easily disagreements can pop up especially during times of fixing up our
homes!Have a very blessed weekend!
Susie
Comments (7)
Happy 21st Anniversary!!!!
We just celebrated 13 yrs.They have gone by so fast.We are both blessed with good men,we are blessed!
Happy Anniversary Mr. and Mrs. C!
Happy Anniversary, Susie! Glad you got to spend some fun time with hubby. It was 26 years for me last June, and I appreciate my husband right now more than I ever have. He is a wonderful man.
Thanks for your concern and prayers. I am starting to feel better, thanks to taking iron. I just don’t know why they didn’t tell me about this before I got so weak to begin with – since the two surgeries so close together can cause it, etc. But I am thankful to be feeling better and will never take my health for granted!
Hope you will have a good week ahead!
Kathi
Bless you and happy anniversary! Hope you had a great weekend!
happy anniversary!!! what a wonderful couple you are.
and, i am so glad you posted. you have been sirely missed. blessings and lots of love, mari
Hi Mrs. Susan! :sunny: What a neat post! Isn’t is a blessing when God sends those little things that are important, like a poem you love, a a picture that strike a chord? I’m so glad to hear you had such a nice anniversary. Your husband certainly sounds like a Godly man, and I’m sure he feels very blessed to have you as well! I LOVED the quote from Ferber… I could so relate to that! I know a young man who was “interested” but I’m afraid that even if everything else were “right” that one quote sums up what it is that really bothers me. I would take an honest, hard working, un materialistic guy any day, than a “metro.”
That book sounds really good! I’ll have to keep it in mind, the title alone is good!
Rcy: I can sure understand being upset about that! I would want to cry too! I hope y’all find an even “specialer” place! Love, ~Marianna
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